She’s Special! She’s Adopted!

It has been a concern for both Walter and I that Ava would grow up being pitied by the people who knew her… ag shame, she’s adopted.

But as time passes, I am starting to learn that the exact opposite is true. Our precious child is loved by so many many people. She is a beacon of hope and a source of inspiration for all who come into contact with her and it’s really pretty special to get to be a part of that. People seem naturally drawn to her.

It’s quite amazing to see how no matter where we go, this precious, special child is always the center of attention and fawned over by most people. Her Sunday School teachers jostle each other to be first in line to care for her. The principal of her soon to be playschool has made special travel arrangements for her. I could go on and on with all the examples.

On Wednesday we received news that Home Affairs have finally issued her with a new ID number and her name has officially been changed so she now has our surname. We headed off to the Spur, yes folks, that’s pretty much the most comfortable place for toddler baring parents to go, for a mini celebration. There is a young Indian man who works at our local Spur as one of the managers. Ava has taken a shine to him in a big way, I think its her first crush. When she see’s him, she immediately breaks out into a huge smile and extends her arms for him to take her. Every time we go to Spur, Walter and I get to enjoy some quiet time as he invariably will come to fetch her to get a balloon, play outside, push her on the swings, whatever. This week, Walter told him that Ava is adopted and shared with him our great news. He, in turn shared how he too was adopted and what a blessing his adoption had been for him. It was very special, I wanted to cry. The next thing I knew, we had sparklers and ice cream, on the house, and Miss Ava once again had a room full of adults wrapped around her little finger.

Two of my cousins are adopted and when I was growing up, the youngest one, as a toddler, would say: “I’m special, I’m adopted!”.

‘Tis indeed true, they are special because they’re adopted.

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  • Reply Kimmie

    Ava will sprinkle her magic wherever she goes :]

    June 3, 2011 at 12:56 pm
  • Reply Christelle

    Congratulations! It has taken a while hasn’t it? Our efficient Dept of Home Affairs at work.

    Ava is a beautiful and special little girl who got beautiful and special parents to love and raise her.

    All the best!

    June 3, 2011 at 1:08 pm
  • Reply Gwen


    My dad’s partner was adopted. The idea of being “specially” loved was instilled in her from the start and you can see how she’s internalised it and how secure she is in her “specialness” even as an adult (she’s almost 50).

    June 3, 2011 at 1:49 pm
  • Reply sue stuart

    I heard of someone who did a beautiful scrapbook page called “Adoption Day” with a photo of mom, dad, baby and magistrate, and has it on prominent display in their home as a proud acknowledgement of that fact 🙂

    June 3, 2011 at 2:13 pm
  • Reply Marcia (123 blog)

    Aaaawww, that is so sweet

    June 3, 2011 at 2:28 pm
  • Reply Mash

    I love that she loves this guy at Spur, it’s like her little baby energy knows he’s adopted too somehow – so cute! My sister’s little girl (almost 2) flirts with my other sister’s boyfriend. It’s hysterical, her whole voice changes and she bats her eyelids and all!

    I don’t think adoption is as unusual as it was when we grew up – when I look around me, most of the families I see are a patchwork, and very few are truly biological anymore. Stepparents and siblings, donor eggs and sperm, I realised that truly the only thing that makes a family is love.

    June 3, 2011 at 4:02 pm
  • Reply darylfaure

    Hmm – does Dylan have some competition?? Don’t make me come to Joburg and beat up a Spur Manager.
    She is indeed a very special little girl Sharon, and I pray she always knows that.

    June 3, 2011 at 8:37 pm
  • Reply Pandora

    Congratulations, its like the last piece, to have that new ID number and your surname. I almost kissed the lady at home affairs when she told me our certificate was ready! And to see her name on an official document was quite overwhelming.
    They are very special little children.

    June 3, 2011 at 8:59 pm
  • Reply St. Elsewhere

    She is special, and beautiful and your daughter!

    Congrats on the little girl now officially having your VW surname.

    June 4, 2011 at 7:19 am
  • Reply tzipieastwest

    How Special !
    Congratulations on finalizing the whole process !!
    Ava is, as usual, super cute !!

    June 4, 2011 at 7:08 pm
  • Reply To Love Bella

    Someone once told me that a child said to them “I am special because I have TWO mommies and TWO daddies”.
    They are special indeed – I have seen with friends how an adopted child gets a tad more love and special treatment – and now I see it with Isabella too.
    I’m proud to tell people that she is adopted!

    June 6, 2011 at 9:54 am
  • Reply Scared & Imperfect Mother

    I think I’m a bit hormonal, b ut your post made me cry. She is a beautiful little girl with parents who love her, there will be people out there who pitty her, but that would be because they do not know you or her.

    My daughter has a string of granparents and she loves it. it makes her special.

    June 8, 2011 at 12:53 pm
  • Reply yvettene

    So true

    June 13, 2011 at 9:17 pm
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