Someone Stole My Baby…

And replaced her with the most irritable, grumpy, tantrum throwing, screaming baby imaginable! I-AM-GOING-OFF-MY-HEAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can only assume, as one does, that this is somehow related to teething, her gums do look red and swollen and I cannot imagine what else could turn my sweet-natured little girl into the screeching monster. It all started last Saturday night, when she woke up at 22h00 crying. I guess that’s normal for some babies, but it’s not for Ava. She goes down at 19h00 every night, with no fuss and sleeps peacefully and soundly until between 06h00 – 07h00. She’s been doing that since she was 12 weeks old, in other words for the greater part of her life. Her nose seemed runny but other than that nothing else seemed wrong.

She was ok on Sunday, a little difficult but I put that down to us being out and about and messing with her sleep times. Monday again, a little grumpy and then Tuesday night the fun really started. It took 3.5 hours to get her to go sleep, she screamed and writhed for the full 3.5 hours! It was hideous and I started to get quite desperate, feeling completely out of my depth and not really sure what to do to calm her down.

We followed the same routine of screaming and writhing on Wednesday, Thursday and on Friday, she added some day time screaming and writhing into the mix and has been doing that ever since! I have had to work from home today because she doesn’t want anyone else touching her, she only wants Mama. This morning, I stood for almost 2 hours holding her 9kg body in my arms and bouncing her and singing to her and rocking her before she finally calmed down.

Add to that, our nanny is sick, I am sick and Walter is sick and studying for a huge exam for his Masters Degree to be written on Wednesday and you get one very unhappy, frazzled and exhausted household.

She does not have fever and aside from a runny, blocked nose all seems fine. She’s not eating well but I put that down to the fact that her nose is blocked making it difficult for her to breathe. I also think the blocked nose is related to her not sleeping well because she can’t suck her dummy so she can’t self soothe. We were using Iilliadin but have switched to Chamiflor (sp?) as its just salt water and safer to use over extended periods. She’s also on Tibb Cold & Flu Relief which is a herbal medicine recommended by the pharmacist to settle her snotty nose. We’ve been using Pansoral and Vidol powders with a little bit of Pando Syrup thrown in for good measure from time to time as well.

Ava has been such an easy baby that I (stupidly) assumed that she’d take to teething like she has everything else in her life so far – like a duck to water – not so I’m afraid, it looks like we have some rough times ahead of us! Of course, this also all feeds into my feelings of inadquacy and guilt because its hard to remain patient and calm when you’ve been holding a writhing, screaming 9kg dead weight in your arms for hours on end all the while having your face clawed and pinched.

Maybe tomorrow will be a better day?

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  • Reply zamom

    Shame man, can’t be easy. Fortunately, mine both teethed without noticing but one hears horror stories. 9 months is also the time when separation anxiety can start – which would also explain the problems with going to sleep and not wanting others to hold her. They say playing lots of peek-a-boo games and also saying goodbye, leaving the room and coming back in again, etc. is supposed to help. Sure google will have lots of other ideas.

    August 23, 2010 at 11:44 am
  • Reply Zeu

    Hugs doll.. Those nights are what nightmares are made off. Can’t suggest anything, as it includes everything I normally try!

    Hope you get to the bottom of this soon!

    August 23, 2010 at 11:46 am
  • Reply little29

    Hi Sharon, It really seems so out of character for Ava… so either she is really battling with those toothies or it could be something else – I remember my paed saying dont always put everything down to teething so if you are worried about her writhing around in discomfort it may not be a bad idea to check her out at the doc – just to make sure….and give you some peace of mind. 🙂
    other than that I hope those teeth all pop out soon and your smiley angel returns….with white front toofies to show for it!! there is nothing else I can suggest as everything you doing is everything I did – maybe iced chew rings, also those feeding thingies where you cut up food and put it in to prevent choking (geez forgot the name) anyway you can freeze fruit or use ice and let Ava suck on it.

    August 23, 2010 at 12:07 pm
  • Reply TJ

    Good Luck is all I can say! I’ve been doing the rocking to sleep thing for a while now – due to the nose and obviously (unknown to me) teeth. And have even resorted to co sleeping just to get some sleep. My lb also gets irritable and grumpy and oh the tantrums…don’t even go there. He’s also been waking up crying everytime he wakes – not normal.

    His first tooth has finally started cutting late yesterday – I can just just see it! So last night was a shambles.

    I have nothing to suggest and I know it’s so difficult to remain calm and happy when they don’t want to go to sleep. You’ll probably find -like me – that after this passes you may need to do some sleep coaching to get back to normal. For now, just hold her and love her! Even when it’s tough! (I have had to learn to control my rage – like serious rage)

    My cousin also has a fairly easy baby – the perfect baby sense baby … but the teething is a nightmare for her!

    Good luck and hope you all feel better soon!

    August 23, 2010 at 12:07 pm
  • Reply wheresmybun

    Shame hon! Sounds really hectic! I hope all of you get better soon….

    August 23, 2010 at 12:21 pm
  • Reply marina1605

    Hi Sharon

    Shame man, teething is not for sissies!!! For those really bad days, I put some Vidol on Claudio’s gums before his bedtime bottle and that helps him go to sleep, and then for the night wakings I put bonjela or pansorol on his dummy or his gums and that helps him go back to sleep. To help with the breathing through blocked nose, try Karvol drops. What I do is put the drops on a bib and tie the bib to the side of the cot. I found this helps with the breathing and it saves messing up the bedding!

    Good luck and vasbyt…

    August 23, 2010 at 12:58 pm
    • Reply Sharon

      Karvol drops have been my life saver, we’ve been through a box in a week and have just started on the second box. Ava’s skin is quite sensitive so I’ve tried the rub but she gets a rash from it.

      She’s finally alseep after a marathon scream-a-thon which afforded me the opportunity to look in her mouth and it looks like she could, possiblity be cutting both her front teeth at the same time. Poor little sausage!

      August 23, 2010 at 1:00 pm
  • Reply thebsdiaries

    in my experience Sharon, trust your instinct. Something else is up. She may well get a rash and it could turn out to be baby measles (even without the spots).Take her to a doctor and get it checked out – could be tonsils too. I left it so late once with my son the doc said one more day and he would have been hospitalised with bronchial pneumonia – without ANY temperature. So don’t be fooled into waiting for all the symptoms, they don’t always come.

    August 23, 2010 at 1:31 pm
    • Reply Sharon

      My instincts tell me this is teething because, aside from a snotty nose and red swollen gums, nothing else is wrong. She was at the Dr last week, after all of this started, for her constipation and he gave her a thorough examination, checked her ears, her throat, listened to her lungs and heart and he found nothing wrong with her.

      August 23, 2010 at 1:35 pm
      • Reply rumneym

        Hi Shaz – someone suggested Empaped suppositories to me last time Jared cut a tooth and they are a life saver. Its only paracetamol but far easier to admit that way and certainly helps get them to sleep. Also just helps a little with pain and fever (I know Ava not running a temp but generally if they teething their temps do go up a little)Ponstan suppositories also very good but try Empaped first. Good luck.

        August 23, 2010 at 1:57 pm
  • Reply suestuart

    Shame Sharon, sounds like a nightmare. Maybe try an amber teething necklace? You can get them at Weleda, or online if you just do a search. Hope things improve soon!

    August 23, 2010 at 1:56 pm
  • Reply elna3

    Hang in there and don’t be too hard on yourselve. Like my friend once said – if things are really bad, just tell yourselve it is a phase and it will pass. Things will get better again and you’ll have your easygoing baby back.

    August 23, 2010 at 2:10 pm
  • Reply ineke1981

    Shame, that sounds horrible 🙁

    Will send you an email.

    August 23, 2010 at 2:37 pm
  • Reply pandoragelb

    For a blocked nose, I find Sterinez nose spray works better than drops,as my lg screams at the sight of any drops, and it is impossible to get them in her nose. The spray is very fine, and although it is a battle, it gets in more easily. It also seems to bother her less.
    It is tough, especially to hold them when they are so wriggly and heavy. But these phases pass, luckily. Hope the toothies make a fast appearance!

    August 23, 2010 at 9:45 pm
  • Reply anynamesavailable

    ughh Heath also teethed really badly – pansoral, panado syrup(have you got a medicine dummy – theyre great!!) and then I would also sprinkle a few drops of Eucalyptus in his room (for blocked nose) and a tiny drop of lavender where his head would be on the mattress. good luck!!xxx

    August 23, 2010 at 10:58 pm
  • Reply Hanneke C

    Haven’t got any words of new wisdom. But I will say that even though I have had some experience with having kids that I don’t always know what to do (especially when you have tried all the tricks in the book)! I wish that they came with an LCD screen with the error code and then I could look it up in the instruction manual! ;-). My 2 1/2 year has turned into a monster and who knows what the problem is? You would have thought after three I have got it sussed! Wrong!

    August 24, 2010 at 3:05 am
  • Reply adeleida

    I feel your teething pain…. This morning I started off with Ashton & Parsons powder (did nothing) followed by teejel (more nothing) then Vidol (helped for a while then nothing) and finally, with tears streaming down her face, resorted to Bennett’s colic mixture (as it just calms them down) and Prodol drops. And she finally stopped crying and fell asleep. This is WAY too much medication but I swear I have no idea what else to do to stop what is obviously causing immense pain. In the meantime, I am having so much Coping Chocolate I will soon be unteething myself.

    August 24, 2010 at 4:10 pm
  • Reply orbit365

    Shame man. Poor Nunu. Sounds like you are doing all the right things. There is that Bennets thing that you put on the vest (almost like a patch) which also helps with congestion.
    Big Hugs to you and her..x

    August 24, 2010 at 6:49 pm
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