Team Pink or Team Blue?

Girl or boy?

That seems to the question on everyone’s lips when asking about our second adoption application. Did we specify a gender the second time around? Do we have a preference? Which are we hoping for?

The short answer is that we have no preference. Healthy is all we hope for. 10 fingers and 10 toes. An uncomplicated legal process and 60 days, is what we hope for. A short wait is what we hope for.ย  But we’ll be overjoyed either way, boy or girl, that detail doesn’t really matter.

Of course, there are pro’s to either option and ones which excited both Walter and I. Although, I’d have to say, when Walter is asked, while he doesn’t really have a preference either way, he does say he’d love another little princess.

In terms of Ava, I think another little girl would be wonderful! I was with a colleague this morning standing out on the balcony at the office, her sister drove past, there was much waving and blowing of kisses and I couldn’t help think how special that would be for Ava to experience. How wonderful the bond between same sex siblings can be (I’m well aware this is obviously not always the case, but one can hope). In terms of preparation for a girl, we’d be able to jump right in really quickly the second time around, I have a massive stash of pink saved from Ava. I donated two huge bags full of girls goodies to Coronation Park over the weekend, but still have two trunks full of barely used Pumpkin Patch, Keedo & Naartjie goodies. So we’re all set for a girl. We also have some names picked out for a little girl, Ruby Rose, Lilly, Layla and of course Walter is totally hung up on an Emily.

But a boy would be wonderful to. Firstly because it would be something completley different to a girl. And secondly because I’d love a little Mamma’s Boy! ๐Ÿ™‚ And of course a son for Walter to rough and tumble with, play cricket and rugby with. In my heart, I’d always thought I’d have a boy. When we started having IVF’s with PGD and the embryo’s were all male, the belief in a son was strengthened. He has a name, his name is Jonathan (which means God gives) or Jessie (which means God See’s).

So there you have it. No simple answer to that question. All that I can say is that it will probably be the first question I ask our SW’s the day we get the magical call to say we’ve been selected, but I’m quite sure, there will be much joyful squealing and happy hearts regardless of what the answer is!


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  • Reply Marcia (123 blog)

    aaaww, lovely post.

    I didn’t know what I’d “do” with a boy and now, I can’t imagine not having a son. I also always wanted a girl too but obviously with the infertility, I didn’t care what sex – i just wanted a baby

    August 2, 2011 at 2:37 pm
  • Reply waiting4amiracle

    I feel the same. Just a healthy baba please.

    August 2, 2011 at 2:44 pm
  • Reply Sue Stuart

    After we lost Nathan I really really wanted another boy, and truth be told I was a little disappointed when I found out we were having a girl. But now I am so overjoyed with my little girl, I couldn’t imagine having a boy! I know that whether you get the call about a boy or girl, there will be so much love abounding that it doesn’t matter the gender ๐Ÿ™‚

    August 2, 2011 at 4:00 pm
  • Reply CalT

    In the same boat as you! We also haven’t stated any preference and somehow I have a feeling we will be placed with another boy (but maybe that’s just because we already have a son). I am secretly thinking of a little girl with a bush of curly hair and all the cute things, but boy or girl, when that call comes I will be over the moon! I think it is part of what makes it so exciting ๐Ÿ™‚

    August 3, 2011 at 2:19 pm
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