The Important Task Of Choosing The Right Underpants

One of the first lesson’s one learns when parenting a toddler is – choose your battles! Some things are just not worth locking horns and getting into a battle of wills over. Now, when you add to that equation to VERY strong willed, determined girls – Ava & I, you’ll understand that there are some things I choose to let slide…

Like when Ava insists on taking a toy with her to school every day, even though the school requests that parents don’t allow it, frankly, it’s just far easier to let Ava take her Spur balloon or a plastic golf club to school in an attempt to keep the peace and avoid a long drive to school listening to a tantrum complete with snot and crocodile tears.

Or when she doesn’t want to wear her gown and slippers on the chilly mornings but would rather wear a “trackie top” and takkies… I choose to let it go. She’s warm, she’s suitably dressed for the chilly weather, does it really matter if she’s wearing her gown and slippers or a “trackie” top? In my opinion, NO!

But one of her quirks is slowly starting to drive me crazy and is costing me a small fortune!


Ava is SUPER chuffed that she no longer wears nappies, in her words, nappies are for babies and if you bring a nappy anywhere near her during the day, she has a total melt down! She has also formed very strong opinions about what she will and won’t wear!

For example, she will ONLY wear a tracksuit top if it has a zip up the front, if it’s a tracksuit top that gets pulled over her head, she will absolutely, no way Jose, refuse to have it come anywhere near her!

She also has her own rule about what “underpants” she will and won’t wear!

Woolies Girls Undies

See exhibit A – the first 3 pairs are acceptable to her, the last two pairs I may as well take out of the packet and throw in the trash as soon as I get home from the shops. Can you tell what her acceptable “underpants” criteria is? Let me paint a picture for you. In an attempt to give her some say in what she wears to school each day (aside from the “trackie” top thing) she is allowed to choose which brooks she wants to wear. She will stand at her cupboard for as long as it takes and unfold and refold all 25 pairs of brooks in her cupboard until she finds the one that meets her criteria!

The criteria is very simple! It ABSOLUTELY has GOT TO have a picture on the front. No picture! No wearing of those underpants! Finished and klaar! No arguments about it!

Then there is also a secondary criteria.

Woolies Girls Undies 1

See exhibit B.

The first pair of underpants meet all the criteria, the 3rd pair of underpants I may be able to get onto her when she’s suitably distracted but the middle pair? Not if my life depended on it! And the issue? Quite simple (in her mind) anything with a pattern that contains polka dots, hearts, little birds etc etc etc is for babies and she will kick and thrash about screaming how she’s not a baby if I bring any polka dotty, hearty, cute little birdie, patterned “underpants” anywhere near her cute little bums!

I have looked in every conceivable shop that stock little girl brooks but it would seem they all have the same clever plan. Sell brooks in bulk packs, ensuring that one to two pairs are cute with  picture on the front and the remaining pairs are hideous plain and boring or for babies! That way suckers like me don’t just purchase one or two bulk packs, we land up buying three or four bulk packs because at least one to two pairs of brooks from each pack will either never be worn or tossed in the trash as soon as we get home!

So please dear retailers, take pity on Mom’s like me and make ALL the underpants in your packs have pretty pictures on the front and no baby patterns? Please?




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  • Reply Julia

    Oy. We also have a similar battle. I had to get rid of ALL underpants and replace with boxer shorts. ALL boxers must have soccer balls on them. And we’ve been wearing the same hoodie all week. Grey with white stripes. Someone even went to take it out of the washing basket where I hid it (at the bottom). I just did not have the energy to fight and gave in. Sent a clean one in his bag with a note to teacher. Maybe she can convince him to put on a clean hoodie?

    July 25, 2012 at 7:39 am
  • Reply Melinda

    Why don’t you buy those Iron on pictures….then you can get to use the rest of the panties

    July 25, 2012 at 8:10 am
    • Reply Sharon

      What a smart Momma you are! That is a GREAT suggestion!!!! Love it!

      July 25, 2012 at 8:39 pm
  • Reply Pandora

    Same here, only certain panties will do. Jackets must have a hoodie. No sleeves that are perceived as too tight. Nothing that ‘itches me’. We like to wear our pink gum boots. A lot.
    I also feel it is not worth the battle every morning. Some days she lets me choose, some not. So I let her go to school in her mismatched outfit with her hoodie and gumboots in bright sunshine.
    I have also found some little pants that had unsuitable slogans on them for little girls. What are these people thinking?
    The extra brooks she doesn’t like I put in the packs of clothes I give away.

    July 25, 2012 at 8:32 am
  • Reply Em's mommy

    We have some issue… we did find that lots of the ones at Ackermans have pictures on all 3 in the pack

    July 25, 2012 at 8:59 am
  • Reply Beth

    I was also Going to recommend getting iron-on pics and “fixing the extras in a pack.

    July 25, 2012 at 9:42 am
  • Reply cat@jugglingact

    I can tell you that this too shall pass. The Princess was like this, and now at 7, she sometimes look for the plain pink one, for intance. I did resort to stitching on little flowers etc bought at the haberdashery shop and it worked because I let her choose them. However she is picky about the style – either bikini or the boy leg style ones. Nothing else. But that I am totally ok with

    July 25, 2012 at 9:55 am
  • Reply Charlotte the Stiletto Mum

    My battle is just different from yours… Lorelai wants plain panties, just on solid colour. Don’t even try giving her a pink pantie that is has a white rim at the top – she will not wear it EVER.

    July 25, 2012 at 2:42 pm
  • Reply Tracy

    You are so right to pick your battles! Both my boys have very strong ideas about what they will and won’t wear and I feel it’s not worth it to fight about it. As long as it is weather-appropriate (warm enough, cool enough) they can wear whatever they like. Yes, it has meant that when my older son was about 4 he went to school in shorts and wellies for most of the summer and went through a stage of wearing underpants over tracksuit pants (even on a flight to PE from CPT) but we had one less thing to stress about in the mornings. They both love playing dress-up and often wear “costumes” that are either store-bought (Darth Vadar, Spiderman, Ben 10 etc.) or homemade from their vivid imaginations. They also love face painting except it often extends into body painting so I have had a green painted child (being Hulk) for a few days. I love their school’s open-minded attitude to their weird and wonderful attire. One report even said “We enjoy D’s creative dressing.”

    July 25, 2012 at 3:32 pm
  • Reply Sian

    I can see that Jayden is going to be string willed as well.
    I wonder if we will have a similiar underpants dilema.

    July 26, 2012 at 8:22 am
  • Reply Lisa-Marie

    I HATE brooks that are not plain! I have never – and will never – own a floral (or otherwise) pair. And I really DO wish that manufacturers would stop making the extravagant ones; be they for adults, teens or headstrong little girls! 🙂

    July 26, 2012 at 1:14 pm
  • Reply Pamela

    oh, strong willed daughters…. I have one too.

    I also pick my battles wisely. I am ashamed to admit it, but I let her drag her pair of panties out the laundry yesterday because she would only wear the one with the Teddy Bear (that she had worn the day before). Yes, I know – disgusting but I am not winning any mother of the year awards so may as well go whole hog.

    July 26, 2012 at 2:36 pm
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