The Irony Of Foregivenss

It’s a lesson I’m learning. Its quite ironic, we (I) fight against it because I can’t seem to get it through my thick skull that forgiveness is for me and not for the other person but I’ve had another lesson in it this week when I chose to forgive my friend and ask her to forgive me for the way I’d behaved. Its weird how its a process, you don’t just land up there, but you have to work through the stages of your anger and grief to be able to come to a place where your recognize and accept that you need to forgive in order to move on and set yourself free from the anger that holds you back inside.

As it turns out contacting my friend, who I haven’t laid eyes on or spoken to in nearly 4 years, was one of the greatest things I could have done for myself. I feel lighter and happier having shaken that monkey off my back, in addition, her response was wonderful, loving and warm and way more than I anticipated. We have been emailing each other backwards and forwards and have shared quite openly and honestly on a lot that has happened in both our lives over the past 4 years. We’re also taking the 1st tentative steps towards possibly rebuilding our friendship by meeting for lunch on Saturday.

I’m very nervous but very excited at the same time!

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  • Reply Me

    Enjoy lunch….if you don’t force it, you will find that a good friendship will bounce back naturally and it will soon feel like that, that time spent not talking never even happened.


    August 12, 2010 at 6:09 am
  • Reply suestuart

    Hope Saturday goes well!

    August 12, 2010 at 7:46 am
  • Reply Nisey

    Wow! That is amazing. so glad you were able to go this far

    August 12, 2010 at 8:00 am
  • Reply little29

    its natural to feel nervous after such a long time but I am sure after the ice has been broken it will be great to reconnect with an old friend again – just enjoy!

    August 12, 2010 at 8:48 am
  • Reply tzipieastwest

    All the best for Saturday !

    August 12, 2010 at 8:57 am
  • Reply Hanneke C

    My thoughts are with you for Saturday 🙂

    August 12, 2010 at 9:23 am
  • Reply skrambled

    This is wonderful Sharon. I hope it goes well and I am sure that it will.

    August 12, 2010 at 9:53 am
  • Reply Mash

    Wow, well done! It’s very empowering what you’ve done!

    August 12, 2010 at 10:42 am
  • Reply mozzie01

    So glad that your friend responded and that it looks like your friendship is on the road to recovery!
    x x x x

    August 12, 2010 at 11:21 am
  • Reply theresak80

    Good for you, S.

    August 12, 2010 at 1:39 pm
  • Reply wheresmybun

    That’s stunning Sharon! I hope it goes well!

    August 12, 2010 at 4:29 pm
  • Reply hayley

    Oh wow…I am so glad you did that, well done, I am sure it took a lot.

    I hope Saturday goes well.

    August 12, 2010 at 6:14 pm
  • Reply hanneke001

    Yay for you Sharon, i am so glad that you and your friend are taking steps to hopefully heal you relationship, i think it is just awesome !! Enjoy your lunch on saturday and may it be FANTASTIC !! I am very sure that the both off you have grown so much in the last 4 years and that all will be well.

    August 12, 2010 at 7:01 pm
  • Reply orbit365

    So happy for you. I guess it’s normal to feel nervous. But you will be just fine. Relax and enjoy.x

    August 12, 2010 at 9:21 pm
  • Reply emk808

    That is so exciting! I can’t wait to hear how it goes.

    August 13, 2010 at 7:30 am
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