I was reminded again this week of the legacy of an adopted child and what that fully means. When Walter and I first embarked on our journey to adoption, my cousin, herself adopted, sent me the most beautiful poem which we have included in both of our adoption profiles(Ava’s one and the second one). I have blogged about this poem before, but wanted to re-look at it after this week’s events.
Legacy of An Adopted Child
Once there were two women,
Who barely knew each other.
One is in your heart forever,
The other you’ll call mother.
Two different lives,
Shaped to make yours one.
One became your guiding star,
The other became your sun.
The first gave you life,
And the second taught you how to live it.
The first gave you a need for love,
And the second was there to give it.
One gave you a nationality,
The other gave you a name.
One gave you the seed of talent,
The other gave you an aim.
One gave you emotions,
The other calmed your fears.
One saw your first sweet smile,
The other dried your tears.
One gave you a family,
It was what God intended for her to do.
The other prayed for a child,
And God led her straight to you.
And now you ask me
Through your tears,
The age old question through the years.
Heredity or environment…
Which are you a product of?
Neither, my darling… neither,
Just two different kinds of love.
With the passing of Steve Jobs this week, it was with interest that I learned that this great man was, in fact, adopted.
I was deeply hurt early on in our adoption journey by comments made by people who did not understand the adoption journey. I’ve obviously toughened up over the past 2 years and also have gained an insight into the beauty and magic of adoption that very few get to experience, know or understand. One of the most hurtful things that was said was how some people felt they could never adopt because they wanted to leave a legacy.
I’ve been reminded of that statement this week with Steve Jobs’s passing. What an incredible legacy he was for his parents, what an incredible legacy he has left for his children. I was reminded of the adoption poem A legacy of an adopted child and most especially of the lines: One gave you the seed of talent, the other gave you aim.
How beautifully these adoption miracles change the lives of all who have the privilege of knowing them. How they enrich the lives of the people who have the honour of being their parents. How they touch lives and teach us all about love as they move so innocently through the world as children and the impact they make on the world as adults.
R.I.P Steve Jobs.