Thoughtful Thursday

The thing I love about healthy debate is that it often gives us an opportunity to learn something, if we can remember to keep our knickers untwisted and communicate like adults. I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about this over the last few days and I’ve learned a number of interesting facts and lesson’s and it’s been a time of introspection too.

But one of the quick conclusions that I have come to is that when you conduct yourself in a passive aggressive manner online and stoop to the level of subtweeting and verbal back patting, it says a lot more about your own character than it does about the person you’re trying to take a dig at!

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I’ve become more and more aware of this over the years and while I know we’re all guilty of a subtweeting, it was something I made a conscious decision not to do a few months back.  Because really, it calls to question my character and says way more about me than it does anyone else and really the biggest subtweet #fail is subtweeting someone who doesn’t follow you. Actually, subtweet is just one big giant #Fail with a capital F that I’m fast learning is reserved for those who lack the intellect to communicate like an adult.

And while its hard not to fall into the ugly of a subtweet, especially when you have strong opinions about something, I’ve learned that if I stop myself and think is this really worth it? Is it really worth making me look like an immature, school yard bullying bitch? The answer is always no and I have learnt to stop myself.

So the next time you’re tempted to participate in pack instinct and throw out a little passive aggressive nastiness in it’s lowest form, remember:

Tweet Wisely


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  • Reply Elize

    Ok. Wow. I had to actually look up the meaning of subtweet! (embarrassing hey?) I don’t think I’ve ever done it but now that I know what it those mean little tweets are that don’t actually mentions names, I must say I’ve always found distasteful and mean and I agree with you. You’ve stated it so eloquently!

    September 13, 2012 at 8:56 am
    • Reply Joni

      Hee hee Elize me too, had to hit google….

      Shaz, not sure what happened etc. But let me know if you need me to squish anyone…. I’ll be there like a bear… Got your back!


      September 13, 2012 at 3:31 pm
  • Reply Elize

    Ok swiftkey is kicking my butt today. I hope you get what I’m trying to say.

    September 13, 2012 at 9:03 am
    • Reply Sharon

      Your comment makes perfect sense! Thanks Uncle Leez!

      September 13, 2012 at 9:36 am
  • Reply Julia

    LOVE. You are sooooo right! Subtweeting says more about the person doing the subtweeting than anyone else. Can I just mention that I have NEVER EVER subtweeted anyone in my life? The thought simply hasn’t crossed my mind! If I want to engage with someone then I do it in an adult way. This is one of the reasons why I haven’t been on Twitter much in the last while.
    P.S. love Thoughtful Thursday. Has a nice ring too it!

    September 13, 2012 at 9:11 am
  • Reply Sharon

    I tried to engage in the conversation on Twitter on Tuesday and was pretty much ignored. Its difficult to engage in a debate with someone when they have no interest in hearing what you have to say and again, says a lot about who they are.
    But I believe that I conducted myself with grace and did not lower myself to the level of subtweeting & passive aggressive Tweets and for that I feel good!

    September 13, 2012 at 9:34 am
  • Reply kerry

    Great read. It really saddens me when people who I follow on twitter due to interesting tweets and posts stoop to this level. It makes them seem so petty and I generally lose all respect and unfollow… The worst part is that they are people within the same ‘community’ who use their perceived anonymity to attack people who have a different outlook or way of doing things. I am finding this more and more often in the ‘mom groups’, where ‘mean moms’ are becoming prevalent. Just sad.

    September 13, 2012 at 9:47 am
  • Reply Lisa-Marie

    Yes, Yes, Yes!! How true! As you know, I am not a fan of online bitchiness. Sooooo juvenile and unnecessary!! What exactly does it prove, anyway? What is the point?

    September 13, 2012 at 12:03 pm
  • Reply Sian

    I also had to google the definition of a subtweet. Its a really ‘highschool’ way to conduct oneself. 🙂

    September 13, 2012 at 12:12 pm
  • Reply TJ

    Yeah, I have to agree, subtweeting is just plain dumb. And yes, it proves nothing. As I said before, it only makes the subtweeter look like a fool for engaging in ‘playground’ antics.

    I have to say I’ve had to roll my eyes a few times this past week and previously when people have subtweeted. Thankfully though I don’t follow a gazillion people so I miss most of the subtweets anyhow. I’m rather picky that way. But, it seems sometimes I’m not picky enough so also do a clear out from time to time.

    I think what happened this week is as you say, no one was willing to listen to your side. I didn’t see you as attacking them, nor did I see them as attacking you. But your reasons for feeling the way you do/did are very real to you and sometimes a little empathy goes a long way.

    I guess my ability to withdraw myself from a perspective and engage another makes it easier for me to ‘debate’ and ‘understand’ another. Many, many people lack the desire or need to take on a new perspective temporarily.

    It is just a juvenile past time. And yes, I do also understand that none of us want to be disliked in a ‘community’ – but we are human and we will NEVER get on with everyone – it is just how it is!

    September 13, 2012 at 3:48 pm
  • Reply Beth

    I hate annoying, open-ended subtweets and FB comments.

    I find it melodramatic and rather histrionic. Usually I just hide the feeds of culprits and unfollow on twitter.

    September 13, 2012 at 10:29 pm
  • Reply Laura

    I am not really sure what sub-tweeting is? Is it saying stuff but not saying it? I did it during the week – I actually wasn’t up for a fight/confrontation but had to say something.

    I generally try and stay out of stuff for the most part on twitter cos it ends up going round and round – both sides feel the way they do and so the arguments just go on!

    September 17, 2012 at 7:13 pm
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