Today Is A Gift!

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift!

Boy was I given a stark reminder of that this morning! I’m both heartbroken but also totally shaken by the news of the sudden passing of a dear fellow IF’ers husband.

Stardust and I go back many many many years. I’ve probably “known” her for about 6 years. We go way back to the old Health24 forum, back to GyneaDoc days, before there was even an Infertility Support Forum on H24. Stardust and I are part of the old old group, Pokkel, AngelFace, Gen, Starfish. We all started at H24 together, we all moved to My Beautiful Belly together and then we all migrated to Fertilicare together.

Stardust and her husband have been through so much, I’ll never forget when she shared with us the news of the loss of their baby son, born prematurely. The horror of his delivery, in the back of the car with only her husband to assist. How her husband was so traumatized by the experience.

Their joy at the success of another IVF and finding out it was twins and then twin girls. The successful delivery of their baby girls, only 10 months old now. Their plans to use their frozen embryo’s to try for baby no. 3 was shared with us all just last week.

And now, just like that, in the blink of an eye, her darling husband is gone. She is a widow with twin girls less than a year old.

I am crushed.I can’t imagine what she is going through, I cannot imagine what this type of loss must be like. How suffocating it must be. How one finds the strength to go on.

But its also been a massive wake up call for both Walter and I. Of how important it is to cherish the time we have together and with Ava, to look after ourselves and our health.

Its really frightened me but hopefully also given me a little push into action especially when it comes to caring for our health!

Please remember this grieving, young family in your prayers!

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  • Reply skrambled

    Its a tragedy. It really is. I feel quite shocked.

    September 2, 2010 at 9:43 am
  • Reply ldr1604

    My blood runs cold everytime I think of her. I can’t even imagine what she is going through. This news has also caused me to stop and rethink some of the things in my life that I just take for granted.

    September 2, 2010 at 9:50 am
  • Reply vroutjie

    Oi! That is awful. I remember Stardust from Fertilicare. I am so sad for her and will keep her in my thoughts.

    September 2, 2010 at 9:51 am
  • Reply suestuart

    Oh no! I also remember her well from FC, this is just tragic news. I’m so awfully sorry to hear that.

    September 2, 2010 at 10:15 am
  • Reply marina1605

    I am absolutely shocked and mortified! I don’t know the details, and this is the first I hear of it. I also “know” Stardust from Fertilicare and followed her journey. How devastating.

    September 2, 2010 at 10:41 am
  • Reply ksmind

    OMG! I too have “known” Stardust through Fertlicare and was also so touched by her journey.. cannot believe it has taken her in this direction.. Gulp.. no words.. so deeply sorry.

    September 2, 2010 at 10:48 am
  • Reply natasjap

    I have followed Stardust’s and your story from MBB days, and I was truly shocked this morning when I found out. I have read a post by her a while ago where she said that she has never been out with both the girls at the same time, as she’d rather wait for her husband to help her… Now he isn’t there anymore.
    I immediately phoned my husband to tell him I love him…Our second baby is on the way, and I cannot imagine being in Stardust’s shoes… Thanks for this post, live is precious.

    September 2, 2010 at 11:02 am
  • Reply mayflowerladybugs

    Such awful devastating news. My heart goes out to her and the girls, I cannot imagine such a loss. Life is truly fleeting.

    September 2, 2010 at 11:49 am
  • Reply zamom

    Very, very sad. To think that those 2 little girls will never really know their dad, heartbreaking.

    September 2, 2010 at 12:36 pm
  • Reply hanneke001

    SO sad indeed, my heart breaks for her and the girls !

    September 2, 2010 at 1:17 pm
  • Reply Jaded

    Oh wow. Thanks for sharing. I don’t understand life and how unfair it can be yet i choose to beleive in a higher power of some sort. I think i’ll give my husband an extra special hug tonight – he means so much to me. Every moment is special and that should never be forgotten.

    by the way…i love your new blog header

    September 2, 2010 at 6:34 pm
  • Reply little29

    Shame my heart goes out to her and her family – I can’t even imagaine what she is going through!! it is so true that life is but a whisper…….live each day as if it is your last… how many of us never do that!!

    September 2, 2010 at 6:44 pm
  • Reply orbit365

    Sjoe….that is devastating. So, so sorry for your friends loss. Will keep them all in prayer..x

    September 2, 2010 at 7:03 pm
  • Reply livinglifelarge

    I am heartbroken for her.. what a shock! I have no words!

    September 2, 2010 at 8:01 pm
  • Reply fionads

    That is so sad.
    I can’t imagine what your friend must be going through right now 🙁
    I don’t know her but my heart is aching for her and her twin girls!

    September 2, 2010 at 8:53 pm
  • Reply thebsdiaries

    shocking news.

    September 2, 2010 at 8:56 pm
  • Reply reluctantmom

    I also saw that on Fertilicare today and was absolute shocked …. I do believe sometimes life does give you more than you can handle. What do you say to even hint at the enormity of what has happened, and how you feel for what is unimaginable for what her and her family are going through … too tragic to find the right words …..

    September 2, 2010 at 10:11 pm
  • Reply staceysthoughts

    Oh my goodness, Sharon. I don’t know your friend but I will keep this family in my prayers. So sorry to hear about this tragedy.

    September 3, 2010 at 4:59 am
  • Reply dee

    There just arent any words to comfort anyone at a time like this. Its shocking and I think of SD often these days. xxx

    September 3, 2010 at 2:24 pm
  • Reply hayley

    So, so, so sad.

    September 3, 2010 at 5:23 pm
  • Reply Mash

    That is absolutely horrendous, my heart goes out to her and those girls. It’s absolutely devastating.

    September 3, 2010 at 7:06 pm
  • Reply antigone1022

    so sorry your friend has such devastating news. Does she have a blog to send support to?

    September 4, 2010 at 8:29 pm
  • Reply yvettene

    So sad and tragic. I remember her now, not from H24 but we chatted on fetilicare for abit after the devastating loss of her son. I said prayers for the family today.

    September 5, 2010 at 8:57 pm
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