Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift!

Boy was I given a stark reminder of that this morning! I’m both heartbroken but also totally shaken by the news of the sudden passing of a dear fellow IF’ers husband.

Stardust and I go back many many many years. I’ve probably “known” her for about 6 years. We go way back to the old Health24 forum, back to GyneaDoc days, before there was even an Infertility Support Forum on H24. Stardust and I are part of the old old group, Pokkel, AngelFace, Gen, Starfish. We all started at H24 together, we all moved to My Beautiful Belly together and then we all migrated to Fertilicare together.

Stardust and her husband have been through so much, I’ll never forget when she shared with us the news of the loss of their baby son, born prematurely. The horror of his delivery, in the back of the car with only her husband to assist. How her husband was so traumatized by the experience.

Their joy at the success of another IVF and finding out it was twins and then twin girls. The successful delivery of their baby girls, only 10 months old now. Their plans to use their frozen embryo’s to try for baby no. 3 was shared with us all just last week.

And now, just like that, in the blink of an eye, her darling husband is gone. She is a widow with twin girls less than a year old.

I am crushed.I can’t imagine what she is going through, I cannot imagine what this type of loss must be like. How suffocating it must be. How one finds the strength to go on.

But its also been a massive wake up call for both Walter and I. Of how important it is to cherish the time we have together and with Ava, to look after ourselves and our health.

Its really frightened me but hopefully also given me a little push into action especially when it comes to caring for our health!

Please remember this grieving, young family in your prayers!