I saw something today which has left me tormented. I saw something today that shocked me to my core. I saw something today that made me realize how lucky I was to have the parents I have. I saw something today which made me realize how lucky Ava is to have Walter and I as her Mommy and Daddy. I saw something today that has reminded me what a terrible place the world can be. I saw something today that made me ask the age-old question of why God allows some “human beings” to be parents!

I saw a woman, yank a little boys blonde hair so hard that his head cracked back and when he fell to the floor she slapped him so hard across the face that I heard the sting of the slap from about 20m’s away. And when he looked up as she stood menacingly over him, and looked at her in utter fear, she smacked again in the face, again so hard his little head spun and again I could hear the sting of the slap from where I was sitting 20m’s away. I saw the three other children she had with her, the eldest couldn’t have been more than 8 or 9 years old, I saw the fear in their faces, I saw how they all stared at the ground while she stood over them spitting venom from her disgusting mouth. I saw another shopper walk past and say something to her and her retaliation at the passer-by. I saw security go over to her and say something and after he had walked away I saw how she dished out a silver coin to each of these terrified children, how they took it in such a meek and defeated way.

I saw when their mother came out of the shop (must have been a gay couple, the woman doing the abusing could have passed for a man with boobs) how the two of them marched off with 4 terrified little children scuttling behind them. I saw all of this and realized these children were being abused.

I’ve been tormented ever since I saw them. I can’t stop thinking about what is going to happen to them. I can’t stop thinking about what they’re suffering through tonight.

But most of all I’m tormented by the fact that I did nothing, that I was too shocked and too stunned to even react. That my heart and my head screamed on the inside and that my hands burned with a desire to go over there and give her as good as she’d given.

I’m just tormented. I feel sick on the inside and I wonder if I’ll get any sleep tonight!

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  • Reply mozzie01

    Ah shame Shaz…that is the most traumatic thing I’ve read about in ages. I’m so sorry you had to witness that. Some people SO do not deserve to be parents.

    April 25, 2010 at 9:58 pm
  • Reply zamom

    What an horrendous thing to see. As you said, one shudders to think what goes on behind closed doors if that’s what happens in front of strangers. One of my brothers once hit me in the face and the memory of that has always remained with me, because it was so unbelievably painful. Those poor children and all the millions of others like them who live in fear of those who should be protecting them.

    April 25, 2010 at 10:07 pm
  • Reply lea2109

    Oh wow! Some parents really should not be parents!

    April 25, 2010 at 10:28 pm
  • Reply Me

    Ahhhh not good and makes me so angry to READ that no matter to have seen it. I would have AND have done in the past told parents exactly what I think of how they “parent” their child, especially if any type of physical force is used towards the child. I’ve no problem with being vocal about anything I see that I don’t like. You hit a child and I see it, I’m going to say something to you. You have a go at me, I’m going to have a go back. You hit me, I’m gonna smack the shit out of you. At least I CAN, unlike small defenceless children.

    Stories like this just make me sit here and ask why can they have children and yet I cannot, when it appears they don’t even grasp what miracles they have in those children.

    April 26, 2010 at 1:00 am
  • Reply hcouperus

    Abuse in all forms breaks my heart, not only the physical but also the neglect of some parents! NZ has outlawed smacking (ie it is illegal to smack your child) in order to try and prevent people abusing their children unfortunally the law has made things difficult for good parents and has made no difference to bad parents. Since the law came in some aweful things have happend to children (ie death by abuse!)The other thing that upsets me as well is the neglect that parents show their children, over feeding them (ie junkfood to little kids!! as their main staple probably), lack of general hygiene and no rules or boundaries (ie little ones still up grocery shopping when they should be sleeping, argg). Anyway, just my five cents worth!

    April 26, 2010 at 3:05 am
  • Reply samcy

    How aweful. Those poor little mites.


    April 26, 2010 at 8:28 am
  • Reply fionads

    Reading this makes me feel so sick. I really feel for those poor children ~ no-one deserves to be slapped in the face especially a young child 🙁

    April 26, 2010 at 8:36 am
  • Reply tzipieastwest

    What an awful thing to witness & poor children !!
    I could hardly finish reading your post.. I can not think about the reaction I would I have had in your situation. Probably the same…
    But would just speaking to that lady or going over to her and say something have had a long term effect ?
    Perhaps it could be helpful to try and contact the social authorities in that area ? Maybe they are already “know” in the neighbour or by the security of that specific place you mention…. ?

    April 26, 2010 at 8:49 am
  • Reply elna3

    Is there anything you can do about it?? YOu said the security guard saw it as well. Maybe they are regular visitors at the mall or shops where you were. Try and go back and see if you can find the security guard -he might know more. I know it is a very long shot but I can just feel your frustration. It is just unbearable to think that they are getting away with it and will keep on abusing these children.

    April 26, 2010 at 8:51 am
  • Reply rumneym

    OMG Shaz what a terrible sight to witness. Not sure how I would have reacted but I agree with Elna – maybe go back and try find out if they arer regulars at the shop then notify social welfare? I’m left with that awful sinking feeling now too. That couple does not deserve to be parents.

    April 26, 2010 at 9:07 am
  • Reply shirl34

    *shakes head* 🙁

    April 26, 2010 at 3:20 pm
  • Reply TJ

    This makes me sick! I wonder if the place had CCTV cameras and if a social worker could do anything to identify this mother and help those poor kids!

    Its difficult for people to react when we are shocked in such a way. Must be so traumatic witnessing this!

    April 26, 2010 at 4:14 pm
  • Reply kirstymac72

    OMG! That would absolutely haunt me too! Those poor poor children! I can’t even bring myself to hit my children, never mind slap them through the face! Those people make my skin crawl! I hope that someone is watching over those poor children and moves them to a place of safety.

    April 27, 2010 at 7:59 am
  • Reply dee

    Sadly there is absolutely nothing you could have done. By the reaction of the abuser to the other shopper and security, you would have just started a fight with someone who would have won. Lets just pray that those kids are helped by someone close to them. God these stories KILL me.

    April 27, 2010 at 9:57 am
  • Reply skrambled

    Oh my word! That makes me so sad. I think sometimes we are in such shock when we see things like that that we are frozen!

    April 27, 2010 at 4:10 pm
  • Reply staceysthoughts

    Oh, stuff like this truly makes me sick to my stomach. Those poor babies.

    April 27, 2010 at 11:23 pm
  • Reply ttcnot2easy

    Disgusting. And Shocking. How horrendous for those poor defenseless little children.

    April 28, 2010 at 7:02 am
  • Reply Mash

    It goes on a lot more than we realise. I also saw something like that once and froze in horror, I also regret not saying something.

    April 29, 2010 at 9:25 am
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