What I Don’t Want

On my journey to parenthood, I’ve spent a lot of time focusing on and thinking about the things I want to achieve on this journey. I’ve blogged about the growth I’ve achieved/am achieving, about how I’ve become a deeper, more thoughtful, more sensitive person along this journey, but in the last week or so, I’ve also been thinking alot about the things I don’t want, there are a lot of things I don’t want to have happen to me on this journey:

  1. I don’t want to ever forget this journey and what I’ve learned
  2. I don’t want to forget the pain of this journey
  3. I don’t want to become one of those women who forget how painful infertility is & brushes off the pain of others or becomes so self absorbed that all I can think about is what about me?
  4. I don’t want to be so all consumed in my own pregnancy that I forget about my IF sisters and their hurts and needs
  5. I don’t want to become one of those women that thinks that everyone who doesn’t show 100% interest in her pregnancy all of the time must either be jealous or not a very nice person
  6. I don’t want to be flip about others pregnancy announcements or negative treatment announcements
  7. I don’t want to dispense assvice, like was dispensed to a friend of mine who was told the reason she’s miscarried was because she was incapable of feeling truly joyful for others pregnancies
  8. I don’t want to be so conceited as to think that I’m deserving of this blessing anymore so than anyone else.

What are some of the things you NEVER want to forget?

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  • Reply Elize

    I agree whole heartedly. All 8 points are good. I just can’t think of anything else at this moment.

    February 16, 2009 at 5:50 am
  • Reply stacey

    These are all excellent points. I especially agree with #3. Very insightful and well put, Sharon. I can’t imagine you ever becoming “one of those” ladies!
    I think this is a really great forward-thinking post.

    February 16, 2009 at 6:31 am
  • Reply Lea White

    And that is where blogging is just so great, it allows us to look back and learn from where we came and prepare us for where we are heading.

    I think this is such a wonderful post and just shows what a wonderful person you are!

    February 16, 2009 at 8:21 am
  • Reply Amanda

    Great post Sharon, and I believe that you would never forget, but with your experience, you will be able to help and give good advice!

    February 16, 2009 at 8:48 am
  • Reply Michelle

    Great post yet again Shaz.
    I certainly don’t want to forget the wonderful, strong woman I have had the pleasure to meet along the way. What a way to meet friends? But I would like to think that they will be friends through thick and thin.

    February 16, 2009 at 9:50 am
  • Reply janin

    I dont think you could ever be any of those things sharry! I dont think that someone who has been through as much as you have and who has also committed it to writing could ever suddenly become what you dont want to. I know when you reach your dream you will be as grateful and happy as you are expecting to be and it will be continuous forever!

    February 16, 2009 at 10:36 am
  • Reply 'Murgdan'

    I, too, never want to forget this journey…if I’m ever fortunate enough to ‘escape’ it.

    February 16, 2009 at 12:22 pm
  • Reply samcy

    I don’t ever want to forget what it took to get there. Ever.

    Great post!

    February 16, 2009 at 9:38 pm
  • Reply Hollie

    Oh boy did you just get a big ole fat YES! from me! You hit the nail on the head with this post. I whole heartedly agree with every one. I’ve been thinking heavily myself about #8 lately. When I went into the RE office the other day, greeted with hugs, one nurse said, “You deserve this”. Which REALLY HIT ME HARD. I haven’t let it go since then. I shall post about it, but my overall feeling is that NO ONE “deserves” IF and NO ONE “deserves” the miracle of a child. We simply aren’t worthy, none of us. We just have to accept blessings as they come and rejoice that this is the journey we have been through. I am most definitely a different person than I was 5 years ago when I started on this journey, but I’m proud of the progress that I’ve made as a person and we’ve made as a couple. I really feel that this is the way that it was supposed to be for us. I don’t know what the future holds, but I can guarantee that there have been no sighs of relief over here. In fact, the worrying has really only just begun. I will always ALWAYS battle IF! I will wear my badge with honor, because I’ve been blessed already, child or not, in so many ways.

    February 16, 2009 at 10:53 pm
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