What I Wouldn’t Survive Without

There are 3 things that have made my infertility journey bearable! I would not have survived this far without these 3 things. Each one of them is as important as the other, if I were to not have one of the 3, I would not have made it this far.

Faith that God’s promise would be fulfilled, faith that one day this would be over, faith that I was brave enough and strong enough to get through it. Faith in God. Faith in Myself. Faith in my Doctor. Faith in my husbands ability to stand by me throughout.

My friends both IRL and cyber. My special friends that I have made along the way, you have no idea how your bravery, love, compassion and support have inspired me and helped me on this journey. From days at the spa, to evenings spent drinking wine and talking till the early hours of the morning, to breakfasts and lunches and tea’s and phone calls and sms’s, I would not have made it without you. Last night Sam and I met up with Mich, its the first time we’ve met in real life, she’s visiting here from another city and is as I type this going under for her 7th ZIFT attempt. My prayer for her is that this could be the end of her infertility journey, that at the end of this, she could have and hold her own living, breathing baby miracle. That all my friends could experience that in the not to distant future.








And last but by no means least. My husband. Although there have times when I’m sure I have frustrated him so badly that he’s probably wanted to strangle me. I know there have been times when my determination on this journey have hurt and overwhelmed him. There have been times when my pain has overwhelmed him and brought him to tears but he’s still there, walking every step of the way with me. Facing our 4th IVF together, I could not have come this far without his love and support.


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  • Reply Sian

    My husband is also my rock! Don’t know what I would do without him.

    October 23, 2008 at 10:03 am
  • Reply Murgdan

    What a great picture of you two! This journey would be impossible to make without some firm anchors!

    October 23, 2008 at 11:45 am
  • Reply samcy

    Thank heavens we have those men in our lives – they really do sometimes make it all worth while. I love that pic of you and W 😉

    I pray for your dream too my friend – everyday. And you will get it. It is around the corner – so close!


    October 23, 2008 at 1:56 pm
  • Reply Hollie

    I will agree with you whole heartedly about your 3 sources of strength. God sends us exactly WHAT we need and when we need it. He never gives us more than we can bare.
    I have to sort of disagree with one point though. I’m not sure, after all of us IFer’s have children, that this will ever “go away”. I haven’t ever been on the other end, but I’ve spoken to the nurses at the clinic and a few out of da closet IFer’s that have succeeded in having a child. I think, in our souls, we will always be IFer’s AND I think its a pretty great club. I think the support and love that we have found on the internet, around the world, is a pretty fabulous thing. So even if we have this THING, We have found folks that are in our same boat and carry us when we think we cant take another breath.
    God Continue to Bless You! Beautiful pics!

    October 23, 2008 at 3:23 pm
  • Reply Amy

    I have to agree completely. Without my faith in God I would be a miserable wreck at this point. I don’t know how people without Him do it.


    October 23, 2008 at 7:46 pm
  • Reply SuzyS

    I just read several of your most recent entries, and you manage to get everything down with such clarity and depth of feeling! It’s good to know that we are not alone in this journey.I really pray that your Jan IVF will result in your BFP – and we may just be cycle buddies at VL too…

    October 23, 2008 at 8:15 pm
  • Reply mozzie01

    You said it Shaz! In the short time we have known each other, you have been a fantastic friend and a pillar of strength…thank you! Stunning pics! Love and hugs…

    October 23, 2008 at 9:43 pm
  • Reply monica lemoine

    YES! I love that you bring these things up. Goes back to that whole theory of grief-blends-into-gratitude again. I think when we go thru hardships, we get more appreciative of the things we have.

    October 24, 2008 at 12:10 am
  • Reply keystoclaritycoach

    Your hubbie is very cute Sharon. Lovely picture of the both of you. Its wonderful to hear your thoughts which seems to encompass what you’re grateful for. It can really help to keep that kind of thinking going, by starting a gratitude journal. Its a great way to start the day. Every day, let your mind wander as you wake up, and write down what comes to mind that you are really grateful for. If you try it, let me know how you get on. You’re amazing Sharon!

    Coach Louise

    October 24, 2008 at 2:13 am
  • Reply Maritza

    Agree completely with your post. All of the essential ingredients to surviving this journey.

    October 24, 2008 at 5:30 am
  • Reply Elize

    What a great post! I pray every day for your miracle Sharon. Having faith is as essential as breathing. I don’t know what I would have done without my hubby, my faith, my family and you. You have been a special friend to me from the start and for that I will be forever grateful.

    October 24, 2008 at 7:50 am
  • Reply Dee

    So true, my husbands strength carries me when I cant anymore.

    October 24, 2008 at 9:55 am
  • Reply Michelle

    Hey Shaz – without our rock solid husbands and friends we meet along the way we could never get through it all. Thanks for your love and support and I pray for your miracle to happen soon my friend.
    Love you lots. xxxxxxx

    October 24, 2008 at 2:09 pm
  • Reply K @ ourboxofrain

    Faith, friends, and family really are so incredibly key in facing the challenges thrown our way.

    Best wishes in your upcoming IVF cycle.

    October 25, 2008 at 3:47 am
  • Reply Trish

    Lovely post.

    Keep on digging deep Sharon because you just have to but thank God for good friends who reach to hold your hands.

    Remember Faith and Hope are eternal.

    Faith in yourself.Hope in solutions.

    What a difficult path you are on … I can only imagine the ups and downs … the highs and lows of 4 IVF cycles . My prayer for courage and faith for you always.

    He’s a keeper who rocks your world . Thinking of you for your IVF cycle.

    Here from IComLeavWe… (adoption,pregnancy loss, IVF twins)
    My Little Drummer Boys

    October 27, 2008 at 7:24 am
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