When Passion Ends…

My journey as a blogger started waaay back in 2008, with my very first blog, which was an infertility blog. This morphed and changed as I travel down through the journey of my life, from infertility blogger, to adoption/mommy blogger. Ava’s placement, which was extraordinary, inspired so many struggling with infertility and without sounding arrogant, my journey into parenthood via adoption inspired others to follow in my adoption footsteps and our story touched lives and played a small part in the creation of other families.

Adoption became my passion. Assisting others and walking their adoption journey’s with them, became my passion and my honour and as a result, Trinity Heart was formed. It was my labour of love, my passion. It consumed me, I devoured literature on adoption, I linked up and liaised with social workers, places of safety and birth mom support groups working in the field of adoption. I was on fire with passion and great love for adoption and for all who work in the field and who form part of the adoption triad. I was inspired and wrote regularly on the TH blog. I scoured the internet for inspirational adoption stories, for information.

Then Hannah was placed with us and our family was instantly completed. And over time, I have moved forward on my journey and our adoption journey, while ongoing, has become less and less of what defines me, of what makes me who I am and what makes us a family and I’ve felt my passion waning. Not passion for adoption, but passion for Trinity Heart. I hardly ever update the blog any-more, I’ve neglected the Face Book page and Twitter account. I no longer have an instant response to those reaching out via email and social media. I’m just not passionate about it any more. My heart isn’t in it and I’m not doing it justice.



And so I have decided to retire Trinity Heart. I’ve cancelled the domain, will be deleting the FB pages and Twitter account and laying it to rest permanently. Anything worth doing is worth doing properly and I’m not doing it properly. I’m tired of having my heart ripped to shreds from emails by desperate birth mom’s looking for assistance, by infertile couples and same sex couples with  heart breaking stories to share. I can’t do it any more. It probably sounds horrible, but I just don’t want to do it any more.

I will always be an adoption ambassador and will never turn away from anyone seeking my advise or assistance, but it’s time to lay the formality of Trinity Heart to rest.

I’m not that person any more, I’m just a mom, with two daughters, granted, their stories are different and our family came to be in the most extraordinary of ways but my focus is not on the how any more, the focus is on who we are and our lives together.

Trinity Heart – The End.


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  • Reply Alexandra Paterson

    Well done for recognising that your journey has changed ‘geographically’ and you are in a different place now. The only constant in life is change! We look forward to more on the Blessed Barreness.

    February 18, 2014 at 10:00 am
  • Reply twitter_Choffel

    This brought a tear to my eye actually, but in a mostly happy way 🙂 You’ve helped so many on their journey’s and through their struggles, and they can only be thankful for that. It’s time you live your life, and your family has all of you to themselves – you’ve certainly worked long and hard enough for it!!

    February 18, 2014 at 10:05 am
  • Reply reluctantmom

    …..I am sure this has been a very difficult decision. It is hard to keep “the fire burning” when you no longer feel the calling. I hope that someone else looks at picking up Trinity Heart ….. you have put so much of your heart and soul into it, and it has been such a powerful project.

    February 18, 2014 at 10:07 am
    • Reply Sharon

      Thanks Celeste. It has been a very difficult decision, one I’ve agonized over for the last few months. But it just feels right to let it go.

      February 18, 2014 at 10:12 am
  • Reply countesskaz

    well written and honest. If something happens it should happen effortlessly. everything has a sell by date. am sure there are others that share your passion and have started something up. you’re ready for the next stage of your life. thats all.

    February 18, 2014 at 10:07 am
  • Reply Laura-kim le Roux

    This is sad but I do understand.

    During the 4 years of my divorce I was all ready to change the world for single moms but then I found D, we got serious and suddenly I didn’t have the same passion. I still get lots of emails asking for advice etc – I reply but more often than not I suggest they contact a lawyer or someone more qualified.

    Maybe just use your blog to help – people wanting to adopt will find you, they will have questions – answer them when they come up, blog when an issue arises. Basically take it one day at a time 🙂

    February 18, 2014 at 10:28 am
  • Reply Heather

    You’re making the right decision for you 🙂

    February 18, 2014 at 1:12 pm
  • Reply rvdmerwe

    I was one of the many you inspired to create my family as you did and will always be grateful that we found each other all those years ago. Without following your story I may never have found what I have today. I have always admired how you wore so many hats and never understood where you found the energy!!! Well done for “letting go” and doing the right thing for where you find yourself now.

    February 18, 2014 at 1:14 pm
  • Reply Pierre

    Sharon, I have so much respect for the work that you have done and we are one of the couple’s whose life you touched. However, I do completely understand where you are coming from and when it is time to move on it’s better to do so swiftly. I have found all the articles that you published on Trinity Heart very useful and also very practical. It will be a shame to loose them now as they are a great resource. That being said, being burdened with so many heart breaking stories by all the people who must have contacted you it understandably difficult and can cause one to suffer from burnout. Good luck with moving on, thank you for all that you have done thus far and I am looking forward to be part of your new chapter as an avid reader of your blog.

    February 18, 2014 at 1:55 pm
  • Reply cat@jugglingact

    I am glad you are following your heart – to an extent this is sad, but to another this is the happiest happy

    February 19, 2014 at 10:29 am
  • Reply Sian

    You have done such wonderful work Sharon. I totally understand your reasons.

    February 19, 2014 at 12:28 pm
  • Reply Julia

    I know that this could not have been an easy decision to make. I DO applaud you for putting yourself first. I think that it’s quite OK and perfectly natural to move on. Thank you for the wonderful work you did. I did learn A LOT from you and from the site.

    February 24, 2014 at 8:43 pm
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